Mum to two young girls under 4, scientist, Baileys lover, baker, crafter, diy-er. Studying my PhD in therapies for depression and anxiety. Mental health advocate. Ex-Singaporean living in Brisbane, Australia.
Have you ever heard of the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup”? And yet as Mums, we are constantly pouring from empty cups. Pouring out love for our children 24/7, cleaning the house 24/7, holding our children to sleep 24/7, understanding our emotional toddlers 24/7, running around doing house errands, preparing lunch-boxes, remembering birthdays, planning birthdays, going to school meets, dropping our kids off to their after school activities. Taking care of sick kids, managing temper tantrums, giving the hubby enough time too. And for most of us, this goes alongside working a part-time and full-time job.
As Mums, how are we expected to find any time off for ourselves, let alone even care about self-care? Why even bother?
Well, because self-care is so important for our health and stress management.
I for one, know for a fact that if I don’t practise self-care, I morph into this horrible, screaming, short-tempered, bomb fuse of a wife and mother, which is not good for anyone.
If I don’t have enough sleep, or if I don’t have that few hours to myself a week, I start to feel myself go mental. It didn’t come easy for me at first, to practise self-care. But I learned to do it bit by bit until I found myself naturally doing it every day.
If you are finding it hard to find some self-care in your life, try five minutes of time to yourself. I don’t care if you find that five minutes locked in your car or bathroom away from prying kids, just do it. Every day, increase it by a little bit until it becomes your every day normal to have self-care.
So how does self-care benefit you?
"I know for a fact, when I practise self-care I become a better caregiver. I have more patience for my girls, I am less angry and short-tempered because I am not tired and grumpy. I play with them more, I empathise better, I know I can take care of them without feeling burned out."
Affects your physical health
When you focus on self-care, you naturally want to do better for your body. For me, when I practise self-care, I love working out. I love going to the gym, having a good sweat session or going for a nice long run along the river or going to a Pilates class. Whatever it is, when you focus on caring for yourself, your physical health improves along with it. You will experience less tummy-aches (our gut health is actually linked to our stress levels), you experience less shoulder and back aches, and you generally feel fit and light.
Affects your emotional health
This is a BIG one to consider. When I practise self-care, I notice a change in my mood almost instantaneously. I become happy, joyful, hopeful and I feel a sense of accomplishment. Thanks of course to dopamine and serotonin (our happy hormones), when you take care of yourself, these naturally produced hormones gets released and makes you feel like you can dance on the clouds.
Makes you a better caregiver
I know for a fact, when I practise self-care I become a better caregiver. I have more patience for my girls, I am less angry and short-tempered because I am not tired and grumpy. I play with them more, I empathise better, I know I can take care of them without feeling burned out.
Here are some ways you can practise self-care.
- Take a bath: Get out the bubbles, oils, and scented soaps, and soak until you’re wrinkled. Try it with one of our body bath soaks available here.
- Deep-Clean Your Pores: With a nice clay masque, you can draw impurities out of your skin and stress out of your system. Try one of our clay masks here.
- Nourish Your Skin: Rich, luxurious creams smell wonderful and feel smooth, especially if you exfoliate your skin in the tub before putting them on. Try one of our body exfoliants here or our rich luxurious body butter here.
- Get a massage
- Go for a walk/jog
- Do yoga
- Practise mindfulness and meditation
- Read a good book
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